Kelly Clarkson She is not afraid to talk about the reality of motherhood, from the struggles of pregnancy to the value of a good glass of wine.
The singer and her husband, Brandon Blackstock, have two children, River Rose and Remington. She is also stepmother of Seth and Savannah, sons of Blackstock from her first marriage.
In honor of his birthday, we have put together 18 appointments for Clarkson parents that are honest and easy to relate. Enjoy!
On the reality of pregnancy
"It's horrible, nothing is beautiful, nothing is magical. Anyway, you're that person who has that pregnancy, good for you. But I will remind my children all the days of their lives for what I went through … I was literally pregnant with Remy, and I said, "They're fixing you." This will never happen again. "If something happens, it's a miracle from God Literally, I told my gynecologist at the table while I was open:" If I get pregnant again, I'll find you! "
In the guilt of the mother
"I have a lot of mom's fault. I was just talking about this … If you're a mother, you want to be with your son every day. You do not want to lose a moment, you want her to need you and to love you, and not to love another person. But I think it's very important, not only for my little girl, our 15-year-old girl and our children to see that a woman is capable of kicking ass at the same time she is also a pathetic mom. I'm not going to kill you, that's difficult. There are days when I cry and I say, I do not know if I can handle all this! & # 39; or do it all But at the end of the day, 99 percent of the time, it's amazing and it's worth it, and that's what I tell myself. "
In teaching children what matters
"I try not to congratulate both our children and our girls for the aesthetic. If they look handsome or beautiful, obviously we will say it, but I am really convinced that everyone around us always says "God, you are smart". You're smart. You are witty, you are fun "… all the Other things that make the character.. "
On the challenges of fatherhood
"(Children) are a challenge, wine is necessary, although they are great, from the mouths of babies, they say things that you're like," Damn. " They're calling you. I know it sounds silly but kids teach you to be a better human. You are watching every moment, not only me at home but I sit here with all of you. "
In the raising of an empowered daughter
"I try to be a safe woman for her, and I think that actions obviously speak more than words, it's an old saying, but it's very true, I'm sure all my children will end up in therapy for something, but I hope it's not for lack of trust. And, I want my children not to be afraid of that. It is a change (for my husband) that I am a very rude woman; The guys I went out with before, they felt intimidated by that, that's not fair to me because I work very hard. So I'm glad that our children and also our girls have a man who watches (until), that shows them, that's how you treat a woman, that's how you respect a woman & # 39; He takes his daughter to appointments and shows her: "This is what a man should do." "
Talking to your children about the news
"It's a daily challenge, because our 10-year-old or 16-year-old often says something like:" Why is this person saying this? Are they allowed to say this? "I'm not going to lie, it's difficult, because every day I am explaining a news headline or the action of someone in politics. But I think it is a crucial moment for anyone with children. All those things that are happening in our political arena, or in the entertainment industry? Well, there is bullying, there is sexual harassment and there is a culture of rape in schools. Everything starts young. So now we have a unique opportunity to use what is happening to ask our children: Do you think this was right or wrong? What you think should Have passed? "It seems obvious, but that is the only way, in the long term, that this world will improve."
In being a working mother
"When you work, strange things. And then you see photos. It's amazing because you see them, but then you say: "Aww, you can do fun things and I'm working." But I love my job … Every time I look at (my son), I will look at him and he will leave & # 39; mama & # 39 ;, and he will leave & # 39; given & # 39 ;. And I say, & # 39; You know what, girl? I work very hard. You better say ("mom"). "And then my nanny and her grandmother will say," Mom said this morning, "and I say," No, he did not! "… It's a challenge when you're working parents, we're both working parents, just to make sure everyone gets their time, we do it with reading."
In the celebrity of his daughter Crush
"My daughter is currently obsessed with Chris Martin, she's in love with him … (At bedtime) she said," Sing a song about the stars. "I started singing" Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star. " She was like, & boring. & # 39; She said: "Another song about the stars". So the only thing that occurred to me was: "Look at the stars, see how they shine for you". So I started singing that and now she's obsessed with that. When I say obsessed, I mean the boy in the video, not Chris Martin now. She does not understand that he is not the boy in the video "Yellow", like when he first came out years ago … It's strange and scary omen … I'm like, you need to slow down your roll! & # 39;
In what she wants her children to learn
"I hope that with our two children and our two girls they see their parents as successful, loving and respectful people because that is what we want for them … I will teach my children to do what they like, no matter if they are the most famous people who do it. You love what you do. Love with whom you work and do not work with people you do not, and do not do things you do not love. "
About not losing the pregnancy
"Every time I see someone pregnant, I only pray for them. (Pregnancy) was literally the worst moments of my life. I'm not kidding, I wish I was that girl that (I had good memories of pregnancy). But no. No Do not miss it It's as if someone had an accident: they're pregnant, I say, "Oh, my God."
In your village
"Giiiirl, we have a town, nobody can do it alone, kids have grandparents who are amazing, and we both have great helpers, because Brandon handles me and Blake Shelton, so it's two very busy races, and then we have two nannies that they help us enormously, they are the the best gifts of all. We have our little town that helps us keep everyone's head above water and we're not afraid to say, "Hey, you're drinking too much."
On raising children with perspective
"That is my fear with my children, especially with my two youngest children, that they will not experience some of the difficulties that helped shape my husband and me to become these very independent beings who can manage a lot. But I try to show them how to be appreciative. and respectful, and take them to things where they can see other people who do not have the benefits they have now. "
In being an ally as a father
"Oh, I do not care (what turns out to be River's sexuality.) I mean, this is what I expect from her: I just hope she finds love. It took me a while, man. And there was a lot of pain during those years … You know, as long as she's happy, I do not care in any way, and neither does my husband … Honestly, it's very funny, I do not care. Even register in my world as different. I do not know why But, yes, it does not. I'm glad you do not! "
On the part of empowerment of fatherhood
"I've always been a safe girl, I've always felt sexy and intelligent, but after being a mother, the amount of shit you do, you are so impressed with yourself! It's the most powerful feeling, because it makes you want to worry a lot less about pettiness and trivial things. "
In appreciating his own mother
"Every time I see my mom, I'm alone, I'm amazed at how she did it. She had three children who lived under one roof in this small apartment, she worked and she went through school, she became a teacher, and she was the director of a daycare center … And she really received the gift of my biological father and I just to deliver all these things without help. Now, as an adult, I understand that it must have been so difficult, you know? We have four children, but I have help. I do not know how my mother did it, it is, it amazes me. And here's the funny thing: there are millions of women and men who do the same, who raise their children alone. It's hard enough with a partner, you know? However, I think that seeing it was great for me because it taught me that I can achieve anything. We were very poor, that is, living from paycheck to paycheck, and it was very difficult for her. I think it was very good for me to see that, in a sense, because I'm really grateful for what I have and what I work for. "
"I do not want to be one of those pop star mothers who do not see their children … They are almost like an accessory, I want to go out with them and be there … It is difficult to be a good mother and a very good person in your work But I have a people town, I have to release control and just say, I'm not going to be there for everything, and it's OK, because I am showing my daughter, my son and our children that they can do both and achieve great things. If you work hard, you can play hard. "
In his tendencies Mama Bear
"Literally, having children has It brought fear to my life. That sounds horrible, I know, but before the children I was not afraid. Now I'm going to bed and I have nightmares about someone who just grabs my little girl and runs. It's always about me not being able to protect my children in any way. I am a bear mom … Recently, our nanny told me that an older child was bad with my daughter in the park and that she just fell apart. I'm glad I was not there, because I would not have handled it well. I totally threw that 6-year-old boy in my head!
In his changing perspective
"I love what I do, but I feel that I relied a lot on my career for my self-esteem. And now I am more than that. I am a mother and wife and I have this another whole thing going ".