You know that your man loves you but you want him to show it to you, to tell you, to prove it to you?
You just need a little more attention from him. But unfortunately you have not found the most caring man … So you have to make him understand that you need these little touches. This does not mean that you will have to change it, it would be impossible. You will simply have to make him aware of what he can do to fully satisfy you: to be more attentive towards you.
All men are different and above all, all the relationships of couples are different. We can not give you a miracle recipe to apply so that your man becomes overnight the most caring man in the world. We can only give you advice, which you will apply according to the situation in which you find yourself. The first thing to do is to understand why your man is not caring for you. This step will not necessarily be easy because it can reveal some concerns of your couple, but you must go through there.
Caring man … it’s not in his nature?
Do not worry about the images of a disaster movie, it may just be that your man is not caring naturally. It is not for lack of love for you or because there is something wrong with your relationship but it is not in its nature. This can be because no one has ever been really attentive to him or because he has never had the reflex to pay any attention to anyone. If that’s the case, do not blame him. You will have to make him understand that this is important for you and that you need these little touches.
And as often in a couple, one of the steps to achieve this is to discuss, to communicate. You will not be able to escape. In this situation, if there is one thing you must remember is that you must not blame him for his lack of attention. It sure does annoy you that it does not come naturally, but that’s no reason to blame him. There are certainly things you do not do that would please him just because you do not think about it. It’s the same for him.
So you have to approach things smoothly. Avoid “You never offer me anything! “You never make a surprise! Or “You never had a little attention for me! “. To steer and destroy all your chances of success, it’s perfect. But to reach your expectations, you should rather make proposals … more or less direct. In everyday life, watching a movie or talking about a book you can tell him, “It’s wonderful when a man has these kinds of touches.” You can then go on with what you would like to do. And do not forget to say why: you know he loves you but that would be a different way to show it to you and tell you. Based on his reactions and personalities, you can then go into more detail and tell him that you really need that.
He changed during your relationship?
Unfortunately, it is also possible that a caring man is less and less so during a relationship …. Until no longer be at all. Such a situation is complicated to manage: you do not understand why there was this change, you try to do even more to bring it back to what it was before but it does not work and especially, you suffer from this evolution that does not suit you at all. If things are not easy, you can reverse them. You can make your man caring again.
In this situation, you will especially have to communicate with your man. Becoming too attentive to him thinking that it will give him the taste to surprise you and bring you little pleasures will not work if you do not find out what is the problem behind this change. On the contrary, it could make him take the highway to leave the place of the caring man he was at the beginning. So you will have to take on yourself and agree to discuss your couple freely, to hear things that you may not enjoy. But without this step, you will not be able to make your man more considerate.
Once things have been put between you, you will not have to worry about being attentive to him. Feel free to be as considerate as you would like it to be. Attention is an exchange, it never goes one way. So be considerate and he will be back again if you have managed to clear things up between you. Again, this will not happen as quickly as you might expect. But by persevering you will get there together.